Unmarried Child Custody – How to Win Custody of Your Child
May 14, 2010 by Alan
Filed under Child Custody Strategies
In the terms of unmarried child custody, the father of the child is normally not given primary custody of the child. Although, in some cases, the outcome can differ and the father takes custody. This, of course, happens when the mother is unfit to raise the child. Before diving in to this messy business of who gets the child, one must first settle this by mediation and negotiation. If that is the case, mediators are hired and can help reach a settlement wherein both parties are satisfied. Solving it this way can be easier for the child and will not make the experience so traumatic. Although, if it cannot be settled in this manner, hiring a family law attorney with experience is the next best thing.
Telling your attorney everything, even the secrets that you don’t want anyone to find out, is important in settling a case for unmarried child custody. You can tell the attorney about the other parents, facts and need-to-know things concerning the case. It is important to not leave out anything that would help the case, as well as not make stuff up. Also, another thing to keep in mind is to listen to your attorney, the years of experience he or she had has to count for something. With all the facts straight, it is more likely for your attorney to achieve the outcome that you want.
Documentation is important in dealing with unmarried child custody. Keeping a log of visitations, the things you do with your child, your problems with the other parent, the money you spend for the child, the places you go to with your child, as well as the times you spend with him quietly at home. Recordkeeping is important so that you can prove to the court how you’re the best choice of a parent for your child.
In settling unmarried child custody, the important thing you need to remember is to be polite and nice to your child’s parent. Making the other parent look mad to the child is a foul way to handling the situation. Lastly, never argue in front of the child. The experience of the case is already traumatic enough to your child as it is, why speak ill to each other in front of your child?
